Babysitters Cannot Replace Mothers
Mother and child quality time
Not a lot of people seem to understand or even value the importance of a mother’s role in the children’s lives these days. Just like society substituted nature with polluted concrete jungles; people also substituted a mother’s love and affection with a babysitter. They are all artificial which produce artificial results.
It is rare for a baby sitter to get emotionally attached to a child; therefore the love factor in this relationship is absent. In a child’s environment; if love is absent, a deficiency has been created. By creating this love deficiency, the emotional foundation the child is being raised upon is shaky, and unstable.
Many studies have been done on families with working mother's, but they could not determine any long term negative impact on the children. But their study was more about what they consider important; like education, and stress management levels of children.
It is rare for a baby sitter to get emotionally attached to a child; therefore the love factor in this relationship is absent. In a child’s environment; if love is absent, a deficiency has been created. By creating this love deficiency, the emotional foundation the child is being raised upon is shaky, and unstable.
Many studies have been done on families with working mother's, but they could not determine any long term negative impact on the children. But their study was more about what they consider important; like education, and stress management levels of children.
Baby steps to the future
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There is much more to a child’s life than being literate, or stressed. There is something so profound to a human’s life that science tends to ignore constantly, and regard it as nonexistent. I’m talking about love; it is the positive vibrations that bond a child and a mother so close together since before birth.
I am a mother to three children of my own; I had the experience with working and having children simultaneously. It was necessary at the time, But I loathed the moment where I had to give by motherly responsibilities to someone else, and go back to work. In the short period of time that my children were looked after by others, I realised that no one can take care of my children’s needs better than me. A series of circumstances presented itself, and I was able to look after my own children again. My stress level disappeared; my children were more comfortable with their environment, and I was able to give them the guidance, affection, and nutrition they need to grow healthy and strong. We must support mothers to aid them with having the choice of staying at home with their children, and stop pressuring them to choose between finances and their motherhood. Make no mistake about it, people who are taking care of your children, are only interested in the income, not the wellbeing of the children. A day care’s policy is not to provide emotional comfort to children when they need it. If they were to spend time comforting each child, they will not have any time to do anything else. So the day care structures its schedule according to the worker’s needs not the children’s. |
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The emotional deficiency these children are subjected to, cannot be measured by educational success, nor determines abnormal behavior. There are vital personality traits that will be heightened and accentuated which produces a certain social behavior. For example; how do they treat others (nice or aggressive), do they show empathy (choosing to help, or make the situation worse), can they show affection (recognizing the need to care, or do they ignore and move on).
These traits will make a big difference on a personal and social level, which will affect the future generations yet to come. Children learn by example; just be prepared to be treated the same way when you get older, as you have treated your own children when they were younger. For a scientific explanation of the upbringing's effects on children watch this YouTube video "Brain Development and Violence with Stefan Molyneux"
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